Fall in Love Again...with your spouse.
Unmerited. Undeserved. Essential.
Have you ever noticed the uncanny ability your spouse has to spot all the unholy aspects of who you are?
Before I was married, God said, "Mike, you have some rough edges. To help you become more Christ-like, I'm giving you Karen. That should do the trick."
So he brought Karen, whom I love dearly, into my life to identify all my shortcomings. My first response when she points out my flaws? Not gratitude!
I don't want to acknowledge that there may possibly be ugly things within me, so instead I strike back: "How dare you point out those things? What's your problem?"
Then I have the choice of either denying my failings or owning them and maturing. And Karen can either harbor anger and resentment or offer grace and forgiveness.
Imagine a marriage filled with grace. A spouse who extends joy, pleasure, sweetness, kind speech, unmerited favor.
My wife does that. I'm still working on it. Most of the time I don't deserve mercy. And yet, Karen can look at me with love and extend unmerited favor. I don't deserve grace for the times I mess up again, or leave a cup in the sink one more time.
A Grace Filled MarriageDaily readings are as follows:
I recently audio taped one of the Grace in Marriage seminars so you can go through the workshop at home. In many ways, this is my favorite marriage talk. To go through the workshop at home, just purchase the package here. You will receive a CD of the talk and two workbooks. You and your spouse can listen to each part of the workshop. Pause the tape when instructed and do the exercise in the workbook. While most couples do this seperately, you can work through it together if you prefer.
Once you are done, return here and let us know what you think.