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Therapy Group for Spouses of Sex Addicts

Facing Heartbreak: Hope and healing for partners of sex addicts

groupBuilding Intimate Marriages is pleased to offer Facing Heartbreak - a 14-session therapy group tailored for women who have been negatively impacted by their partner’s sexual behaviors. 

Participants will be welcomed into a confidential, supportive, and caring environment designed to help partners of sex addicts find healing from the impact of sexual betrayal, and become equipped to move forward with wisdom and hope.  Over the course of 14 weeks, two female therapists will guide participants through weekly sessions combining learning, processing, and support. 


Codependency Therapy Group

Building Intimate Marriages is excited to offer:

Overcoming Codependency Therapy Group

Courage for Women Who Don’t Feel Heard

This 8-week therapy group is tailored for women who struggle to have a voice in relationships, who desire to find greater strength in themselves, and who seek healing from the damages of codependency. Guided by skilled therapists, participants will be welcomed into a confidential and caring environment, designed to foster meaningful connections with others facing similar struggles.

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How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex

Building Intimate Marriages is excited to offer:

How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex.jpgHow To Talk With Your Kids About Sex

Do you have kids? Is it time to have the “Big Talk”... you know the one! The my-kid-is-old-enough-to-ask-about-sex-but-I-hope-they-don’t-ask- questions-I’m-not-sure-how-to-answer-yet talk. Yup, that one! Join Christian Sex Therapists, Beth Leonard and Andrea Farnham, for an open and informative discussion with practical tips on how to tackle this tough subject. Bring any and all questions and concerns with you. Our hope is for you to leave with more comfort and confidence on how to talk to and teach your children about sex. 

Parents will learn:

• Developmentally appropriate language to use in order to discuss the topic of sex.
• Normal developmental behaviors to expect in order to lessen any surprise.
• How to discuss the conflicting messages children receive from today's culture.
• And much more, including any and all questions you may have!


  bleonard AFarnham
   Beth Leonard, MSW, MA   Andrea Farnham, MA, MFT 


When:  Friday, February 10th from 7pm - 9pm

Where:  Sterling on the Lake clubhouse - 7005 Lake Sterling Blvd, Flowery Branch, GA  30543

Cost and Registration:  $10 per parent (or couple).  Click here to register.



Licensed Counselor Needed

Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. announces the immediate opening for a Licensed Counselor/Therapist to join our team.

Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. (BIM) is a team of clinicians (LPCs, LMFTs, Associate Counselors/Therapists, and Interns) as well as administrative support, who are passionate about helping clients use current conflicts and struggles as means for personal growth. Established in 1998, BIM is a non-profit relationship focused ministry based in North-East Metro Atlanta. We provide a number of counseling services, including marital conflict, affair recovery, sexual dysfunction, porn and sexual addiction, sexual trauma and abuse, premarital, marriage and sexual enrichment and other related issues. Our team has a strong relationship with, and receives referrals from, local churches and businesses, as well as past and present clients.

We are looking for a licensed clinician (LPC, LMFT, LCSW, or LP) who seeks to join a vibrant team that will support their passion for counseling. BIM offers administrative support (office, scheduling, book keeping, and marketing), which allows our counselors to focus on what they enjoy doing most – helping clients. All staff members are hired as employees of Building Intimate Marriages, Inc. and receive a percentage of the receivables they generate plus benefits. In addition to licensure (or license eligibility) in the State of Georgia, an applicant must be able to show specialized training and experience in working with our target demographic (marriage and sexuality). While not required, special preference will be given to applicants with related certifications (i.e., sex therapy, sexual addictions, specific marital models, etc.).


Foreplay survey - what you like

like bannerA special "thanks" to everyone who responded to the survey on foreplay and arousal a couple weeks ago (see here). We had almost 400 people respond in less than a week.

For those who missed the survey, it posed questions related to foreplay in martial sex. The focus was on activity during the arousal stage of lovemaking (time and types of behavior). In requesting you complete it, I promised to provide results of the survey. Due to the method I used to collect the data, the number crunching will take some time, but I do want to provide some early findings.

One of the questions I asked was, "Please list the top three things that typically contribute most to your increased arousal." I took all your answers, compiled them into a list, and plugged your words into a frequency cloud generator. The image below is a graphical representation for the frequency of words used. 

Clearly, the most common word utilized to describe preferred arousal activity was kissing. Since many respondents answered with “deep kissing”, the word deep is also a high frequency word (this program counts words, not phrases). Touching and caressing were also high in number. Other frequent words included body parts people wanted to have kissed, touched, or caressed (on them or their spouse). I also loved how often people responded with “play” as an answer.

While the list focused heavily on touch and physical sensations, verbal types of answers , such as talking, telling, and words, were also prominent. The words which appear too small to read were descriptive words used when an answer had more descriptive information in it (i.e., slowly, lightly, soft).

 There were also words and phrases noticeably absent. Words like pornography, erotica, role play, and toys, for example, were very rarely mentioned. It remains unknown whether these were not listed because they are simply not part of arousal activities used by the individuals who responded, they are not part of the “top three” arousal behaviors, or perhaps respondents were not comfortable listing them.

Looking over other parts of the survey, you provided good information (i.e., over 70% of you said your spouse knows what arouses you). I look forward to sharing the remaining results with you once all data is processed. Stay tuned.

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