Sex Therapy

with Building Intimate Marriages

Sex Therapy

Answering Common Questions

What is Sex Therapy?

Good question! Sex therapy is a commonly misunderstood area of relationship counseling. It may be helpful to think of this as being a compilation of three foci: “Christian + Sexuality + Counseling.”

We believe that Christ designed sexuality to be a diverse and enjoyable reflection of His nature, and that sexuality is much more than the act of intercourse. Your sexuality is evident the way you esteem yourself, your desire to connect with a friend and, yes, the intimate physical expression you share with your significant other.

Because sexuality is so close to your spiritual, mental and emotional health, it can be especially devastating when past hurts, physical challenges, long-lasting compulsions, broken relationships, and shame inhibit your ability to fully enjoy sex. The trained and certified therapists at Building Intimate Marriages integrate a foundation of faith with extensive research on how relationships impact sexual functioning, and partner with you to find desirable solutions.

What is a session like?
In sessions, we aim to create a relaxing, no-expectations environment where you (and your partner) can begin to discuss topics that have been difficult at home. No two individuals or couples are exactly alike, and we are sensitive to helping you define what is “satisfying” for you. You may start to notice change after a couple of sessions or quite a few sessions – but it is important to know that this gift takes time, patience and dedication to cultivate.
Who is sex therapy for?
Sex therapy is for couples, singles, or anyone who has a concern about their sexuality.
Why should I seek sex therapy?
If you feel “stuck,” frustrated, confused, or anything other than satisfied with your sex life, you may benefit from partnering with trained professionals to discuss potential for improvement. Individuals and couples may often avoid counseling due to unknown expectations; we would love to meet with you to discuss these concerns and see if Building Intimate Marriages would be a good fit for you.

What issues are typically addressed?

While clients may seek sex therapy for a variety of reasons, the following are examples of difficulty areas:

  • Low sexual desire, or conflict over different desire levels
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Premature ejaculation
  • Inability to orgasm
  • Unconsummated marriages
  • Vaginismus
  • Female sexual pain
  • Sexual addiction or compulsivity
  • Past sexual abuse
  • Affair recovery

If you have a concern that is not listed, please feel free to ask.

Below are some of the blog posts written by our team that address issues related to sex therapy. We invite you to take a look.

Who Initiates Sexual Activity in Your Marriage

Who initiates sexual activity in your marriage? Are you ok with how it is? One of the more common areas of sexual dissatisfaction I see in my office is in the area of initiating sexual activity. Complaints of who initiates, how often, and how lovemaking is initiated...

When She has the Stronger Drive

This article was written for my friend Shaunti Feldhahn's website - It is copied here but I recommend you also view it and the comments on her website. While there, sign up for her email list.  - Dr. Mike   When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part...

When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part One

This article was written for my friend Shaunti Feldhahn's website - It is copied here but I recommend you also view it and the comments on her website. While there, sign up for her email list.  - Dr. MikeWhen She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part One....

Thoughts on Desire, Sin, Affairs and Being Deceived…

Some thoughts on desire, sin, affairs and being deceived while reading the book of James... About 70% of my therapy load involves post-affair couples. One, or both, of the spouses have had an affair and they are in my office, at least in part, to restore their...