Conflict causes damage, and some wounds run deep. What does it take to restore relationships that have been deeply wounded?

Corie Weathers, LPC, BCC asked me to join her new podcast to talk through this question. I absolutely love any conversation with Corie, and this podcast gives you a window into our talk – specifically, my thoughts on the critical nature of contrition and grace.

In this episode, Dr. Mike and Corie explore:

• Why deep conflict (personal or societal) emerges when pain goes unaddressed
• What makes a contrite heart so transformative — and so rare
• How grace functions as an active force in reconciliation, not passive acceptance
• The difference between forgiveness, safety, and rebuilding trust
• Why some relationships — and some communities — recover while others fracture
• How humility, grit, and emotional regulation allow peace to take root again
• What healing looks like when it’s slow, nonlinear, and imperfect
• The inner work required of both individuals before reconciliation can occur

Corie reflects on how these insights reach far beyond intimate relationships:
To heal a divided culture, individuals must first examine the inner conflicts that shape how they show up in the world. The principles that restore a marriage — truth, humility, accountability, and compassion — are the same principles that restore communities.